Everything that happens to us happens on purpose. And sometimes, one thing leads to another. Instead of locking yourself up in your cage of fears and crying over past heartaches, embarrassment and failures, treat them as your teachers and they will become your tools in both self improvement and success.
I remember watching the movie Patch Adams. It’s a great film that will help you improve yourself. Hunter “patch” Adams is a medical student who failed to make it through the board exams. After months of suffering in melancholy, depression and suicidal attempts – he decides to seek medical attention and voluntarily admits himself to a psychiatric ward. His months of staying in the hospital lead him to meeting different people. Sick people in fact. He meets a catatonic, a mentally retarded, a schizophrenic and so on. Patch finds ways of treating his own ailment and finally realizes that he has to get back on track. He wakes up one morning realizing that after all the failure and pains he has gone through, he still wants to become a doctor. He carries a positive attitude with himself that brings him self improvement and success. He doesn’t only improve himself, but also the lives of the people around him and their quality of life. Did he succeed? Needless to say, he became the best darn doctor his country has ever known.
So, when does self improvement become synonymous with success? Where do we start? Take a look at these tips:
1. Stop thinking and feeling as if you’re a failure, because you’re not. How can others accept you if YOU can’t accept YOURSELF?
2. When you see gorgeous models on TV, think more of self improvement, not self pitying. Self acceptance is not just about having nice, slender legs, or great abs. Concentrate on inner beauty.
3. When people feel down about themselves, help them to lift themselves up. Don’t go down with them. They could pull you down further and then both of you could end up feeling bad.
4. The world is a large place for lessons, not mistakes. Don’t feel stupid and doomed forever just because you’ve failed on a science quiz. There’s always a next time. Make room for self improvement.
5. Take things one at a time. You don’t expect black sheep to be goody-two-shoes in just a snap of a finger. Self improvement is a one day at a time process.
6. Self improvement results in inner stability, personality development and yes, SUCCESS.
7. Set meaningful and achievable goals. Self improvement doesn’t turn you into an exact replica of Cameron Diaz or Ralph Fiennes. It just aims to result in an improved and better YOU.
8. Little things mean A LOT to other people. Sometimes, we don’t realize that the little things that we do, like a pat on the back, saying “hi” or “hello”, greeting someone “good day” or telling Mr. Smith “hey, I love your tie!”, are simple things that mean so much to other people. When we’re being appreciative about beautiful things and other people around us, we also become beautiful to them.
9. When you’re willing to accept change and go through the process of self improvement, it doesn’t mean that everyone else is. The world is a place where people of different values and attitude live. Sometimes, even if you think you and your best friend like to do the same thing together at the same time, she could easily decline your invitation for self improvement.
We should always remember that there’s no such thing as ‘overnight success’. It’s always a wonderful feeling to hold on to the things that you already have now, realizing that those are just one of the things you once wished for. A very nice quote says that “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” We are all here to learn our lessons. Our parents, school teachers, friends, colleagues, officemates, neighbors… they are our teachers. When we open our doors for self improvement, we increase our chances to head to the road of success.
Saturday, April 12, 2008
Tuesday, April 8, 2008
7 Secret Steps to Living a Life of Happiness and Abundance
The DYSALA Method
I am often asked about the DYSALA Method – “Andrea, what does DYSALA mean? What does it have to do with happiness and living a life of abundance? Can I learn about the Seven Secret Steps and make a difference in my life?” Yes, you can! Everyone can apply the DYSALA method and become the master of his or her life!
While DYSALA is just an acronym for Discover Your Script And Live Again, the DYSALA method is a most powerful means of ridding yourself of the demons that have ruled your life. The DYSALA method is a proven, systematic way to help you sift through your emotions and the memories of a lifetime to identify the single, most significant event of your childhood that triggered your Script.
A Life-Script is the blueprint by which we live our lives. Everyone lives by a Script. A child is most susceptible between the ages of 4-7; these are the “growth” years during which a child is most impressionable. Whatever happens during these years, whether good or bad, forms a lasting impression in the child's mind and soul. A spider bite can turn into a lifelong phobia; a bullied child becomes a bully himself as a defense mechanism; a ridiculed fat child has no self esteem as an adult; and an abused child never trusts anyone.
And even if nothing out of the ordinary happens during those years, children learn by imitating the adults around them and thus habits are formed that have their roots in the words and actions of their parents, teachers and other adult role models.
Unfortunately, 95% or more of all Scripts are negative. The 7 Secret Steps of the DYSALA method show you how to conquer your negative Script and how to write yourself a New Script – a new blueprint for the life you want to live!
1. First, you have to understand how Life-Scripts are formed. The first Secret Step gives you a series of examples of negative Life-Scripts and how they were formed, so that you learn to appreciate the significant power they can hold over you. Once you are aware of this power, it is no longer invisible and you can start to fight it.
2. Second, you have to recognize how Life-Scripts can influence you in your life and how you in turn can influence others as a result of your Script. This is an important step in the DYSALA Method – see the pitfalls of a negative Life-Script and embrace the potential benefits of a positive one. This will give you the courage to proceed to the third Secret Step.
3. The third Secret Step is the discovery of your own Life-Script, which could be a very emotional and disturbing process. It is one thing to talk in abstracts and general terms involving Scripts of other people, but it is quite something else when you go through the discovery process yourself and zero in on happenings in your long lost past, which, unbeknownst to you, have lodged themselves in the deepest recesses of your subconscious. If they were painful events, you probably blocked them out completely from your conscious mind, never suspecting that they would grow to powerful Life-Scripts that ruled your life.
4. Naturally, the emotional stress of the discovery of your own Life-Script could be upsetting. A variety of methods are presented in the fourth Secret Step on how you could cope with this stress and build a solid foundation for the new life that lies ahead of you, one that is full of happiness and abundance!
5. This is where the fun begins. In the fifth Secret Step you get to write your New Life-Script. Dream big, paint your new life on a blank canvas with all the colors of the rainbow! Put everything on it, new material things if you like – a new car, a new house, a vacation place, a boat, travel, etc. Or paint new relationships, a new job, new ideas – fame and fortune, whatever you like. And when you see yourself living the life you painted on this canvas, you will know how to write your New Life-Script that will make your dreams come true.
6. In the sixth Secret Step you learn how to bring it all together. You discovered your old Life-Script, you wrote your New Life-Script and you painted the life you want. Now you get to put the structures in place that will anchor and secure you in your new life’s path: your belief system about love and relationships, sex, religion, money and finances, material wealth and spiritual wealth, etc.
7. And in the seventh and final Secret Step you will find a series of exercises that you should do daily to permanently imprint your New Script in you subconscious and secure your path to newfound happiness.
Follow my DYSALA Method of the Seven Secret Steps and live the life you have always wanted – a life full of happiness, personal fulfillment and abundance!
Enjoy your journey!
www.SevenSecretSteps.com
I am often asked about the DYSALA Method – “Andrea, what does DYSALA mean? What does it have to do with happiness and living a life of abundance? Can I learn about the Seven Secret Steps and make a difference in my life?” Yes, you can! Everyone can apply the DYSALA method and become the master of his or her life!
While DYSALA is just an acronym for Discover Your Script And Live Again, the DYSALA method is a most powerful means of ridding yourself of the demons that have ruled your life. The DYSALA method is a proven, systematic way to help you sift through your emotions and the memories of a lifetime to identify the single, most significant event of your childhood that triggered your Script.
A Life-Script is the blueprint by which we live our lives. Everyone lives by a Script. A child is most susceptible between the ages of 4-7; these are the “growth” years during which a child is most impressionable. Whatever happens during these years, whether good or bad, forms a lasting impression in the child's mind and soul. A spider bite can turn into a lifelong phobia; a bullied child becomes a bully himself as a defense mechanism; a ridiculed fat child has no self esteem as an adult; and an abused child never trusts anyone.
And even if nothing out of the ordinary happens during those years, children learn by imitating the adults around them and thus habits are formed that have their roots in the words and actions of their parents, teachers and other adult role models.
Unfortunately, 95% or more of all Scripts are negative. The 7 Secret Steps of the DYSALA method show you how to conquer your negative Script and how to write yourself a New Script – a new blueprint for the life you want to live!
1. First, you have to understand how Life-Scripts are formed. The first Secret Step gives you a series of examples of negative Life-Scripts and how they were formed, so that you learn to appreciate the significant power they can hold over you. Once you are aware of this power, it is no longer invisible and you can start to fight it.
2. Second, you have to recognize how Life-Scripts can influence you in your life and how you in turn can influence others as a result of your Script. This is an important step in the DYSALA Method – see the pitfalls of a negative Life-Script and embrace the potential benefits of a positive one. This will give you the courage to proceed to the third Secret Step.
3. The third Secret Step is the discovery of your own Life-Script, which could be a very emotional and disturbing process. It is one thing to talk in abstracts and general terms involving Scripts of other people, but it is quite something else when you go through the discovery process yourself and zero in on happenings in your long lost past, which, unbeknownst to you, have lodged themselves in the deepest recesses of your subconscious. If they were painful events, you probably blocked them out completely from your conscious mind, never suspecting that they would grow to powerful Life-Scripts that ruled your life.
4. Naturally, the emotional stress of the discovery of your own Life-Script could be upsetting. A variety of methods are presented in the fourth Secret Step on how you could cope with this stress and build a solid foundation for the new life that lies ahead of you, one that is full of happiness and abundance!
5. This is where the fun begins. In the fifth Secret Step you get to write your New Life-Script. Dream big, paint your new life on a blank canvas with all the colors of the rainbow! Put everything on it, new material things if you like – a new car, a new house, a vacation place, a boat, travel, etc. Or paint new relationships, a new job, new ideas – fame and fortune, whatever you like. And when you see yourself living the life you painted on this canvas, you will know how to write your New Life-Script that will make your dreams come true.
6. In the sixth Secret Step you learn how to bring it all together. You discovered your old Life-Script, you wrote your New Life-Script and you painted the life you want. Now you get to put the structures in place that will anchor and secure you in your new life’s path: your belief system about love and relationships, sex, religion, money and finances, material wealth and spiritual wealth, etc.
7. And in the seventh and final Secret Step you will find a series of exercises that you should do daily to permanently imprint your New Script in you subconscious and secure your path to newfound happiness.
Follow my DYSALA Method of the Seven Secret Steps and live the life you have always wanted – a life full of happiness, personal fulfillment and abundance!
Enjoy your journey!
www.SevenSecretSteps.com
Tuesday, April 1, 2008
Be As Happy As You Want To Be
Almost everyone has heard the hit single 'Don't Worry, Be Happy' by Bobby McFerrin. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message to everyone. Bobby McFerrin's simple message surely made a lot of people happy by telling them not to worry.
Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. As you surely already know, stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer and stroke.
There is an apt saying - 'The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change'; we are lucky that we have the power to make the necessary changes in our life if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that that too would change.
Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, so accept them for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all resentment. If arguments seem unavoidable, try and make an effort to understand the situation and you might just get along very well with the other person.
To be happy is relatively easy – just decide to be a happy person. Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook would be. The choice is really simple, just choose to be happy.
There are several ways by which you can do this.
- Being grateful is a great attitude. We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mails, thank the policeman for making your place safe and thank God for being alive.
- News is stressful. Get less of it. Some people just can't start their day without their daily dose of news. Try and think about it, 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do.
- Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to make the results you desire.
- Laugh and laugh heartily every day. Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. Laughter is the best medicine'.
- Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger or frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.
- Working hard brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives a feeling of being competent in finishing our tasks. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us, they give us a sense of value. Work on things that you feel worthy of your time.
- Learning is a joyful exercise. Try and learn something new everyday. Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons.
- Run, jog, walk and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive, and
- Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins and hazardous places.
These are the few simple things you can do everyday to be happy.
And always remember another quote from Abraham Lincoln, he says that, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."
Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. As you surely already know, stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer and stroke.
There is an apt saying - 'The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change'; we are lucky that we have the power to make the necessary changes in our life if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that that too would change.
Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, so accept them for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all resentment. If arguments seem unavoidable, try and make an effort to understand the situation and you might just get along very well with the other person.
To be happy is relatively easy – just decide to be a happy person. Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook would be. The choice is really simple, just choose to be happy.
There are several ways by which you can do this.
- Being grateful is a great attitude. We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mails, thank the policeman for making your place safe and thank God for being alive.
- News is stressful. Get less of it. Some people just can't start their day without their daily dose of news. Try and think about it, 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do.
- Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to make the results you desire.
- Laugh and laugh heartily every day. Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. Laughter is the best medicine'.
- Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger or frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.
- Working hard brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives a feeling of being competent in finishing our tasks. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us, they give us a sense of value. Work on things that you feel worthy of your time.
- Learning is a joyful exercise. Try and learn something new everyday. Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons.
- Run, jog, walk and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive, and
- Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins and hazardous places.
These are the few simple things you can do everyday to be happy.
And always remember another quote from Abraham Lincoln, he says that, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."
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